wife won't admit PA with OM

[FreeBird0120]

So do I press forward with the assumption that she is lying or assume that she is telling the truth now? I'm finding that an EA would be a lot easier to accept but the possibility of it having been a PA is still unresolved for me. I guess I just don't believe her when she says nothing happened.

Hi Jake:
Just my 2C, but for some reason, for me as much as a PA would kill me to know occurred, I think the EA was be worse as there is an emotional attachment there that is a lot harder to break.

I had told my H that it almost would have been easier for me to accept that he just wanted to "have a little fun" (for lack of a better way to say it) then to grow emotionally attached to OW...it's been harder for me to deal with the fact that he has/(hopefully now "had) some pretty deep feelings for OW...it's such a blow to your self esteem and worth knowing that when deep feeling arise for someone else that you become replaceable to the one person you thought loved you beyond understanding...

My heart aches for you as I know exactly what you're going through and what you're feeling. I too snooped for awhile and everyone is right when they tell you that it just causes more pain. Please try to stop doing this and start trying to heal yourself through your 180's and GALing...

I wish you luck and you are in my prayers...BIG HUGS!!