NYCPeter, my understanding is that you prefer mediation because you think you'll get a better settlement and spend less money than lawyers/court right?

Remember that if mediation doesn't go the way you want you have a fallback plan. You're not in a hurry, and in a negotiation the person with the deadline always loses.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015