Optimism

[adinva]

I appreciate what you're saying, but personally I don't agree. We're all grown-ups and can disregard things we don't like in the responses to our posts, even if we'd be better off not disregarding them.

But if all we got here was sunshine and cheer, I personally would not be getting much out of it. I have friends who provide that.

I came here to find out a more realistic picture of the sitch I found myself in, what works, what doesn't, and what I can expect. Advice, encouragement, community. But don't paint the world pink for me, I'll stop believing what you tell me. I want the harsh truth because that is what I need to deal with. And if you're overly harsh or cynical because you've been through the wringer too, I can take it.

I commented recently in what could be construed as a cynical way, and I thought twice about doing it, but I sincerely believed my advice could prevent someone else the heartache I'm experiencing and the pain that is coming for my children.

Give me the truth as you see it based on your experience, and don't worry too much about my feelings, that's how I feel.