25 You know I have a great deal of respect for you, and will even go as far as to say that there most likely is projection coming from me.
Here is my thing. Jake has enough information to drive himself nuts with pointless conjecture. In fact he still wonders "if she did, or didn't"
I could probably bet that his heart and mind tell him that she did. Can he live with that knowledge? Is it something he can accept? If he finds out his worse fears are true will it derail any and all attempts at piecing?
Jake needs to seriously consider this, and come to an acceptance he can live with. Otherwise it will eat him alive.
As for my tough talk on boundaries and such, at some level his W violated his trust. Whether through a true infidelity or extreme secrecy, she has given Jake reasons to believe she cannot be trusted. I really think that she holds a heavy responsibility in "winning" Jake back.
For Jake to act like all is suddenly forgotten, will probably just build resentment on his part. Yes he will need to learn forgiveness, but she has to let Jake know she feels remorse. (even if it's only for being so suspiciously secretive).
