What do I do next? Part 2

[luvhurts49]

Alright, my W posted some stuff on FB saying that she just wanted a man that wants to be her equal and is willing to put as much into a R as he is willing to take. I thought about that for a bit and when she came to drop off my S3, I told her the following:

That I always thought of her as my equal and although the past year has be hard for me (personal reasons beyond our M), I have done everything I could to prove that she and our family/kids are the most important things in my life. That I've made mistakes and that I was sorry that it wasn't enough for her.

She came back at me saying stuff about how I've told a couple of people about the OM and she says that they are just friends, but says that she can't talk right now (had to go to work).

I know that it's backsliding, but she is taking things to an extreme. She tells everyone that she isn't going to rush into a D, then a week later I'm getting served. She tells everyone that there isn't OM, then I find that there is and she only says he's a friend. Really? You work with this guy for 8 hours everyday, then you spend the night at his house (more than once) and he's "just a friend"?