He is a very kind hearted man but can also be Controlling.
Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone like this?
Ask yourself that.
I understand, in that my wife is also very controlling, but you are at the ground level building up. Does not sound like a very stable foundation that you are starting from.
To EXPECT him to change is not a very good idea. He won't! So you either accept the way he is or not.
Maybe you should re-read the pursuit and distance articles again.
Sounds like you are pursuing him. Depending on him.
