A fork in the road - EA admitted by wife

[NYCPeter]

Well W texted me this AM asking if I had cancelled the mediator.

I told her no - I thought she was cancelling. She responded - "Ok - left a message to cancel, let me know about two Fridays from now - Dec 2".

I want to reply - "Lets get through the holidays and schedule in the New Year", though she will see this as me trying to delay everything.

The dates are for mediation (which quite frankly I would rather do than go through Lawyers if we were to go through with D).

What do you mean by "the tools to getting through all this are right under your nose".