I realize I'm still pretty new to the forums but I seem to be noticing something on the forum I feel compelled to bring up. While there has been pretty good response here to my own situation, IMHO, there seems to be an undercurrent of cyncism in much of the feebback given to many.
What may be intended as straight talk comes accross somewhat fatalistic. What attracted me here, to the DB web site, to MWD's writings, was the overwhelming sense of optimism. When you are hurting, you don't want to be told there's a good chance the marriage is not going to work out. Even when not said directly, or not intended with what is said, this is what comes accross when trying to be "realistic" on someone elses behalf. We all know the chances just by virtue of having come to this place in our lives. Being reminded of it in an effort reinforce tactics can be defeating to the reader.
Be over the top with optimism, even if it didn't, or hasn't yet worked for you. Remember this is Divorce-BUSTING.
