wife won't admit PA with OM

[25yearsmlc]

Jake
If he is casually asking for sex, its because it already happened. Plain and simple.

Not to me. GB, why is this so obvious TO YOU? I like and respect you

but your sitch has consistently influenced your advice to Jake, with a lot of "certainty" in projections. I part ways with this Jake.

She MAY have cheated, or not. But IMO, it's by no means a "done deal."

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Stop the snooping now, I think deep down you know your answer. Now its time to stand up for yourself and for your marriage. She clearly does not respect you anymore Jake, otherwise she wouldn't be talking to OM about sex, or at the very least she would make it clear to him that "it's not like that"

again with the projections-- "She clearly does not respect you"....Um-wow gotta part ways w/GB here too. Hate to confuse you Jake but thought I'd say that fwiw.

Yeah, she MIGHT be cheating as he states. But I'm nowhere near as convinced and in teh final analysis, YOU are the h who married her and we hope YOU know her.


That's funny she'll tell you till her face is blue that OM is just a friend but why wont he say that when OM asks for sex.


Jake your wife is in serious dream land and she needs a heavy dose of reality. Some of that reality should include that she cannot treat her husband like dirt,

of ALL the men on this site, for YOU to say that just hits a chord in me. GB, me thinks thou doth protest too much. ...Come on GB...lighten up on Jake b/c he's not you and his w is not yours.

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So here's my practical advice, read

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so many healthy men have sworn by this book Jake, it must be worthy of a glance, don't you think?


think of what is keeping you with her, reevaluate that in the face of your new discovery. Accept that thing are as bad as you feared, then figure out how much you will tolerate.

If you stand by and do nothing you are just encouraging to be a serial cheater.

So now's she's a "Serial cheater"? Geez...jake, stay on track. We are pro marriage here, but not at all cost. But your costs down the road are going to be really high if you are wrong about her behavior OR if you pretend she was. She's hoping for a good night tonight. What are YOU doing to help create that?


Find what YOUR boundaries are, no staying overnight with the opposite sex, no friends of the opposite sex that are exclusively hers, etc., etc. Yes she'll threatened to leave, yes she'll scream and maybe run away to OM, what's the worse that could happen, she runs to have sex with him? Wait she's already doing that.

Jake I think you seriously need to consider your limits.