If a reconciliation was on the table that would be one thing
Yes, this is very key. This may change the picture entirely.
Originally Posted By: workinghardguy
I just look at them as people who put their pants on the same way I do
Love this attitude, WHG!
Originally Posted By: Rick1963
Keep getting a life and have as much fun as you can. She can either join you or not. But remember that God has a plan for you otherwise you and all of us would not be here.
Have you been reading my play book? Yes, that's the attitude I strive for!
Originally Posted By: In_Shock
the stability of having S's home not change (your house - his home) is important for him. Something has to be stable and reliable. You are his rock.
Thanks, IS! Yes, this is of the utmost importance. My decision will definitely be based on what's best for him. As much as my W will try to paint the picture that this is a good idea for everyone involved, where we live now is pretty much the only place he's ever called home. I know I'm up against a lot. She is a true salesperson, and she can paint a pretty good picture. He wasn't even 2 years old when we moved here.
My S is with my W tonight. We had a brief interaction while she came to pick him up. She's feeling a little bit better. I had my upbeat and happy face on again - it's really not an act anymore, it's become a way of life. She asked about the tobyMac concert we went to while she was here and I was able to tell her how much fun it was. So - it was a decent interaction. No discussion about the moving debacle she's proposing. Knowing her, it'll be something different next week anyway.
GAL'ing activity of choice tonight was my Men's group at church. Another good group meeting tonight! I am really enjoying it.
I got home and though it was 32 degrees out (it'll be colder tomorrow morning), I decided to get my 8.6 mi. bike ride in. Well, it turned into a 3.5 mi. ride and 1 mile walk. I blew a tire. I decided to treat the dog to a 1 mile walk / run when I got home. That'll have to do for tonight's workout.
HeyJB took the bike out thanks to you. She was dusty boy. Tires were flat. Road to a place called 7 bridges great fishing spot. Not sure how many miles from home I think about 4. So I just sat down by a boat ramp to type this and since my legs gave up. Have not been on bike for years but it feels great. I think I ride a little longer and than turn around. Other than 3 cars that went by I am the only one out on this road. It is cold and windy but I feel alive. Thanks for the Inspiration man.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Hello JB, Got a call from my w today, she said she went running this morning out there and it was in the20's, cold as heck! In the 30's here in jersey this morning, 5 mile run down at the canal in the wind, sure was frosty.
Was reading one of your posts from back in the spring, (I think), you were talking about getting away to the mountains of carolinal to get in touch with nature and God. Been thinking that I might do this myself on Thanksgiving, take a ride up to the Pennsylvania Grand Canyon, in the wilds of Pa, and get a good 10 mile hike in, then scoot over to my brothers place nearby have a cold beer, make myself a thanksgiving dinner, and sit on the porch and watch the deer eat apples off the ground. Man, thats living!
Enjoy the day!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
My W stops by to pick up my S tonight. I started out upbeat and positive. Then it turned into a minor altercation. She is supposed to work tomorrow, but it's her weekend with S. She asked if I was going to come down to her apartment to pick up my S tomorrow morning before she went to work. I may have threw my DB hat right out the window at this point. I told her, "no". She asked,"Why not? How come I have to do all of the driving? I started getting pretty ticked off at this point. I didn't show it, really. I just calmly said, "Who moved?" She then said something about it not being fair that she has to do all of the driving. I just said "Who is watching S tomorrow?" It was just a tense convo. When she left, I just got angrier.
I mean, whose idea was this whole D thing, anyway?
Am I off base here? Bring the penalty flags and 2x4s if I need them. I'm not sure I did the best job DB'ing in this situation. I have to confess, I have a little bit of a chip on my shoulder on this one. I'm still riding the high of anger.
Short answer: good for you. You have to stand up for yourself when necessary. DB is not about being taken advantage of. I think you were in the right. It's her weekend, it's her conflict, let her drive. Let her get a taste of how much driving she will be doing when she makes a move farther away. Personally, and with all due respect, it's your wife I'd like to give a 2x4 to. Big hugs, lc4
Thanks so much for dropping by! I had prayed about it and posted. And whaddya know? lc4 shows up! I unloaded on a friend, too, and that always helps.
I think she was expressing more of a global frustration. TBH, the only time I ever go down to her apartment is when I pick up S for church when it's her weekend and he wants to go to church. She took a new job a couple of months ago and it's no longer on the way for her to pick up S on weeknights - it's out of her way. But - then again, she made the decision to take that job. But you're right - if she makes the decision to move further away and I decide it's not in my best interest or my S's best interest to move, it's going to be a whole lot more inconvenient for her.
I think my anger is reducing to a headache now.
I am going spend some time in the Word, too, and pray about it some more.
It's amazing how these little things bug me, but the bigger things roll off of me like water off a duck's back.
So - it was a decent interaction. No discussion about the moving debacle she's proposing. 
Knowing her, it'll be something different next week anyway. 
I decided to treat the dog to a 1 mile walk / run when I got home. That'll have to do for tonight's workout.
I'm glad you felt so alive!
I didn't show it, really. I just calmly said, "Who moved?" She then said something about it not being fair that she has to do all of the driving. I just said "Who is watching S tomorrow?" It was just a tense convo. 
But you're right - if she makes the decision to move further away and I decide it's not in my best interest or my S's best interest to move, it's going to be a whole lot more inconvenient for her. 