Hello again to everyone. I will just jump right in. Some of you know that I have been dating a guy for over two years now. I started dating him 8 months after my divorce. He is 39 and has no kids and was married once for 8 mths and she cheated. He is very independent and has been on his own since 18. He is a very kind hearted man but can also be Controlling. He has moved quite a bit in the past, taking promotions (gov.). He has only stayed in one state for over 3 yrs. and that was the state I am in. He bought a house in my hometown after about a 8 mths of dating. I moved in with him about a yr. ago. He had/has a hard time adjusting to living with someone. He enjoys his space to an extreme. (He is an introvert). He took a promotion back in July of this year and moved 15 hours away and only comes home every 3 or 4 months. Mst of the time I deal ok with it. I keep busy and try to not think about him being so far away. He, on the other hand, is fine with it. He is used to long distance relationships and as long as he sees me 3 or 4 mth. at a time, it works for him. My fear is nothing will change. He has NO idea when and if he will get to come home and maybe he will have to move even further away. He isnt ready to marry and neither am I really. he isnt staying in the state he is in, so I am not moving there and he doesnt want me to unless i get my own place. He feels like we should have never moved in together and doesnt want to again unless we are married. He says he is just mot ready for that.
I really dont know what to do. There are times, like tonight, on the phone with him, that I want him to tell me if he is coming home soon, but he cant. I dont want this to go on forever. Not knowing is miserable. At any time he could move even further away. I dont want to push him and ask over and over gain. What do I do? Just sit back and wait on him to come home or move further away?
Maybe I let myself get into a relationship too soon after my divorce. I dont think I gave myself time to heal. I love this man and dont want to be hurt again. I just want to be happy.
