actually about to go take some 'me' time but I have no problem settin' that aside for a bit.
"i will try to use the strategies you have written,"
These are not my strategies, a collection is a better way to put it. I was just one of the shmucks who had to practice this stuff. This type of situation you are in is screwed up. How else can I say this?
As I said before, read the books. They will help give you a much better grounding than we can give in 10,000 words or less.
Yes, your H is angry. Up and down even. What do you do? Blame yourself or perhaps, understand he has stuff to work out and that you may not be not responsible for most of his anger? Some issues he hs to work out even? Go figure.
You're responsible for yourself and for your half in this. Nothing more. You probably made mistakes. We all did. I did. Listen to him. He may have some good things to say but if it gets unreasonable and unfair, tell him that's not on and move on.
If you are being blamed for it 'all' then take solace in that you've got your side covered. He will have to shoulder his half. If he can't, you are not responsible for his half of the picture. Nuff' said for that. Doesn't mean you don't love him still just means you don't love what's going on.
If anyone else has anything to add to this, feel free!
I haven't posted much in the last seven years. I've been a lurker. Just lookin' to put back all the good help I've gotten...
