Jake I do hope your W had the awakening she needed. Nonetheless if she truly was having an A like an addict she mayl rebound. A lot of infidelity materials place the burden of proof on the person caught or accused of cheating. They need to understand that their actions whether real or perceived, have hurt the spouse, and must do what they can to make things better. Right now the more transparency you two have the better.
She shouldn't have to hide anything, and you shouldn't have to dig it out. If you read the stories where the spouse comes back, or the poster is the unfaithful one, you'll find an almost desperate need by the offending spouse to be transparent.
Trust needs to be rebuilt, total honesty is by far the best way to do it.
Cobra: I let my old thread die out, the advice here wasn't quite fitting my situation. I pop in here to pay it forward.
