But divorce DOES change everything. So does financial upheaval. Far better for you to appreciate that D12 has a positive outlook regarding the move. Don't bring her down. You daughters have no say in where they live, go to school or whether their parents stay together. They have to go along with it. Keep them out of a Tug of War.
Most children Do move following a divorce. Few people stay in the same home. 20 min away? Piece of cake. Many kids have to move out of State.
I have moved twice since the divorce. In the first move (to downsize to a more affordable house) - I also worried about D so I kept to the same neighbourhood and school. In the 2nd move I went 3 hours away - which makes visitation for Ryan's dad much more difficult - but we make it work.
I know things seem dismal now but they will get better. This would be a really good time to point out the positives to your daughters and help them deal with it all. It also helps to write down the things you are grateful for. Like your health. Your friends. The good people in your life. Etc. I have dealt with job losses, business ripoffs, my child suffering severe brain damage and my husband taking off on me. I still got up every day and put one foot in front of the other. And found something to be grateful for. Especially do it now - while your daughters are growing up. Because this time is fleeting - yet they will remember it for the rest of their lives - and mostly - how you handled it.
Hugs for better days ahead. I'll bet the sun is shining today.
