I am 45, he is 40, our child is 3. My older kids are 14 and 13 and my children are my first priority. I do the best I can with them and I am very sad that their fathers would not work with me, especially my ex-husband. I was a good wife for him and his second wife only put up with him 1/10 of the time I did. My older daughter feels that she has little or no chance of staying married because her father has divorced twice, both sets of her grandparents have been divorced.