It just makes a huge difference to me because we have a child. If I got dumped without the child, I am sure I'd have moved on to someone else easily.
I have the books "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Why Men Marry Bitches" and have reread them recently, but I still am stuck.
My moral qualms were smothered by pain and despair and rejection after my ex-husband and the father of my 2 older kids remarried. I was acting very uncharacteristically for a few months. I am being true to my moral values at this point.
I am at this point afraid of bringing another man into my children's lives who might hurt them, like my older children's stepmother did. I am afraid of being rejected myself at some point. I was very much scarred by my divorce and I didn't have a chance to heal from it before I ended up entangled with this new man and child.
My experience has taught me that I love other people more than I am loved and that even if people claim to love you, and claim to want to be spend the rest of their lives with you, you can't be sure that they will hold up their end of the bargain. This new relationship was never one of love and promises.
