Jeepers, I know this one! The others who posted for you know this too. For myself, this was probably the hardest thing I had to go through but I came out of it much better. However, if I would have sit and stewed and not be smart about this it would not have gone well. (If you make a mistake here that's alright. Learn and move on.)
Keep to the simple stuff that we talked about. One day at a time. H is doin' his thing and it has to run it's course. That's something you can't control so don't even try. I know this sounds like a broken record but it's true, again, focus on what you 'can' control, yourself.
By the bye, keep reading Michelle's books that we talked about, 'Divorce Busting' and 'Divorce Remedy.' Stick with that for now.
"I want to be a suportive and comforting person for my husband so he will want to be near me. ?? Wrong in doing this?"
We know the answer to this one. Nothing wrong with this. In short, you are going to have to make yourself a more interesting person who's confident in herself. Feels good about herself and is a very interesting person to be with. Start the process if you haven't already. Over time, as H goes through his stuff he'll most likely see that, 'Hmm, things are not going so good here after all. Maybe I might have been a putz. She's become quite the woman...'
I haven't posted much in the last seven years. I've been a lurker. Just lookin' to put back all the good help I've gotten...
