Thanks 2tp. Also, I have yet to meet w/ a L to get informed on my rights. I know in my state we have to be seperated for 1-year before you can file for D so I haven't felt the need to. When do people recommend seeing one? Perhaps I'm not seeing one due to fear of the potential D. And if I see one do I casually share this w/ w so she see's that I've accepted this and am moving on or keep it to myself?