I value your input and I am in no way implying that you wont turn out to be right in the end, but I think I would never forgive myself if I did not try. I had success with DBing in the past, the problem was that as soon as we decided to reconcile, I stopped. I slipped back into my old habits. I realize now that divorce or not, these are habits that I need to change anyway. Even if efforts are not successful in getting back my ex-wife, they will make me a better person for me and my children.
I am hurt by the situation but I do not harbor bitterness or anger towards her on my part. I am past that stage. I have forgiven her and can let go of the pain she has caused me, but that does not remove the pain I am feeling. This is why I need to remove myself from her for awhile.
