Okay, I have a few minutes of solitude, while I take a break from... MOVING. Ick!
Keep running! I loved, loved, loved it... I started w/the Couch to 5k again a few months back, but had to stop. I was doing the program one day, and feeling particularly athletic, and thought I'd sprint the last run. Well, I was running in my neighborhood, on a street that has little traffic, w/my eyes closed... I must have ran faster than I thought, considering where I was, and ran into a curb... twisted my ankle. God. Small stress fracture - from being dumb!!
So.
Don't do that.
Do you know what it is that H is looking for or finds missing? Does he feel like he's been husband/father so long, and so intensely over the last years that he's not himself anymore?
Two thoughts... Both equally important to consider #1 - He's using that as an excuse to do either a) guy stuff; and/or b) cheat on you. Hey, it's giving him space, w/out losing his family, right? #2 - He might be in mid-life doldrums where he feels like this is "all" he is anymore. (And, for that I say, BOO HOO. Grow up. You created this life, now deal w/it, and be a husband and father to your family.)
I just plain don't do moods. I spent 2 1/2 years in limbo. I am SO sickened by the memory of it now.
So... I'm glad he wants his marriage. Now, does he want it, PLUS all of this "other" stuff he's doing... I think you need to know what that "other" stuff is. If he's innocent in regards to cheating, great... But, you need draw some definite boundaries regarding his time away from home, and what activities he's enjoying away from home.
Hey, it would be fun to escape and leave everyone behind someday(s)... to just play. Sorry, Dude... you have a wife and family at home suffering in your self-induced misery.
That's my help so far.
I'll be back.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
