W & I are communicating and are friendly with each other but I still don't know where to draw the line as far as DB'ing goes. One of the main reasons our m declined and we are seperated is that I wasn't their for her emotionally. Over the past year and a half I have made every effort to change that dynamic and their are times when she has told me she is angry because I'm doing it now but I should of been like this years earlier.
Their have been multiple times within the past 6 months where she says if she thinks of me as her husband she has a lot of anger and resentment but when she lets me in as a friend then their is not as much.
So I'm still trying to figure out how to detach yet be their and be supportive of her. I want her to know I'm there but don't want to pursue.
I definitely am not going to initiate any R talks and haven't done so in a while. I also haven't initiated any friendly calls/tm's. I don't want her to think that I'm not interested in her life however.
I am concerned that she is happy and will continue to be so with us just being friends. If we come to a D than I don't think I will be able to have her in my life as much as she is now and I guess eventually I will have to let her know that but as of now I am not bringing up any R talk.
She hasn't specifically mentioned D in a few weeks but she has brought up things like her going to need health insurance and our car that is in both of our names. I really didn't comment much on either statement and just listened and validated.
Should I try to build on the friendship that we have re-established or keep it vague and do more GAL??? This has included me exercising 4-5 times/week, spending a lot of time w/ my kids at home and taking them out, and hanging out w/ friends.
