IMO, if you have a guard and your own mother doesn't feel comfortable around him, don't ask. That's unfair to her. Don't ask your W. (I told you.....or was the Ajay,.....that you'd be tempted to use the dogs as the "link" to contact WAW.) Put them in a kennel till you get back. If you are going to own large dogs, then they should not be somebody else's responsibility.
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I was really hoping she'd want to start talking to me regularly again.
You set yourself up for disappointment. Every woman who has had a "disagreement" with her H (without making up) and to the point of lasting more than a day to get over it, knows she can't afford to even speak kindly or have a normal conversation with you (and forget about smiling at you), b/c you H's take it as some kind of "sign" everything is better. Therefore, women who are serious about leaving the M, or those who aren't...but are angry or have issues with the H...feels she has to not be very nice....for this very reason!!! And when the W sees it in his face...then she vows to herself that she'll have to be colder, meaner, or whatever, so you won't get any wrong ideas in your head.
Don't send the card until it has just enough time to arrive on her birthday. If you send it early, that is pressure. You might as well put a want ad in the paper, begging her to come back. Yes, it's that pursuing!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
