Well I think I do have some positive things to say:
An affair is like an addiction it's a quick and easy escape from the problems that already plague the person. It's an escape from reality like drugs and alcohol.
Like other addictions, it's not until the addict loses friends, family, happiness, and general well being because of their addiction that they become willing to re examine their actions and life and do the right thing.
Affairs often work out like that. The WAS thinks everything is great, they have their OM/OW to keep them high, and have a their lame LBS as the security blanket if things don't pan out.
Sometimes the LBS will threaten or actually leave, all of a sudden the WAS comes crashing back to earth after they realize they now have to deal with the mess they have created.
All of a sudden the good old days of family bliss the WAS and the LBS shared become clear. OM can't or refuses to match them, now the WAS has to make a choice, this is when you finally have a chance Jake.
