First off. I did Couch-to-5k. I got such strength and confidence (physically) from it!
Secondly. I have a profession, and got out and about a fair amount.
Thirdly. I asked. Of course, he denied. Of course, he was just unhappy...
It took two and a half years to be able to "hear" the truth... My XH had control of all cell phone records, cc bills, and anything trackable... I did hire a PI. It was well worth every penny.
I had a lying, cheating (w/girls almost half his age), husband who had a lease on an $1800/month appt, and hadn't paid our taxes in 12+ years... We had tons and tons of debt, while we lived water-front in a huge home, kids in private schools, and every cleaning/maint staff on payroll.
It didnt take long to detach once I saw the pics and prof, and I was able to "silently" prepare for my exit before acting...
Funny, in that time... Once I detached and became unfeeling towards him... He came to me.
I think I could have had him back... But, now, did I want someone like this?
This is why I encourage you to just find out, and decide if what you have in front of you is salvageable. You have boys looking up to you. You have your heart and confidence to protect.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
