Hi Cayote, thank you for response!,,Its really great to be here in DB,i have read other people stories and it gives me a little hope. i will try to use the strategies you have written,although i have done some of them..i have been doing ok for the last few weeks,and our D has been great in kindergarten.its just i have difficulties to deal with H,because He is angry most of the time,so i have to stop the conversation and ignore when He is angry.. i don't understand why He is so angry like everything? and basically He wants me to say Yes to everything he wants? AND i think it is wrong!like today we are going to the state to make the separation legal,H Has told me that i should not ask for( WIFE SUPPORT)and H don't want our properties( savings to be divided equally)..and recently H wants to change the agreement we have made for our D,before D is allowed to go church with me eventhough,Its H weekend with D.. and now H told me that our D its not going to church with me anymore if D is with H.it makes me crazy because we used to go church as a family before it has happens..Church is really a part of my culture by the way,hopefully the state will listen to it. (H knows where to push my buttons i guess!.. i have to have a lawyer basically. this is for my D and for my sake in the future, like financially.. it will make Him really upset about it.and my fear that it will drive H away.. and it will make reconcilation further away.It seems like it works just to ignore H when he is angry..recently I tried not to show interest With Him and I did not ask How Hes doing,,.. basically it helps me a little emotionally.. I Have tried to focus my energy for my D AND Work., Family and friends has been with me,and Ya! your right some of them wants me to go to date!... its kind of annoying;( I guess they don't really understand what i have been through..
