The first chapter I suppose

[mindfull]

Autumn... I was on DB for about three years... I just read your sitch, and was complelled to update my 2-year old signature, and respond...

I'll be back when I don't have to type from my phone...

But, I have one huge word(s) of advice:

You need to find out of this man is having an affair. It certainly sounds like it, and you can't work on you or your family until you know what you're dealing with.

I had my head in the sand for over two years... Everyone else here "knew".

Don't let that become you.

I would have done anything to save my marriage, mostly for my kids...

There is true happiness for you on either side of this mess.