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Today turned out to be a busy day. I had taken today off work. I have to burn vacation before the end of the year or I'll lose it. So I might as well take advantage of it.

I smuggled in Skyline chili today for my S at school. I brought some chili dip, too, and shared it with several of the kids. S's teacher talked trash about college hoops - he's a Duke fan frown and my S and I are big UNC fans. smile I think we're going to have fun with that. I went out to recess once again today. smile

It was supposed to rain here today. The good news is the rain held off until about 8:30 tonight. I was originally hoping to squeeze in 26 miles on the bike today. However, with the temperatures in the 70s and the rain apparently holding off, I rode 45 miles instead. crazy I then came home and rode almost 7 more with my S. crazy

My S and I got haircuts tonight, ahd dinner and made some music CDs. My S did call my W tonight when the storm moved through.

I have not had any contact with my W since last Thursday. I will likely see her tomorrow, though.


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Good luck seeing W tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you.
U are SOOOOOOOO wonderful with S. Consistently. That is key. He will grow up to be a good man with you as a role model.


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Thanks, IS! As it turned out, I didn't see my W today.

I am trying in earnest to give me S what I didn't have. My parents D'd when I was in Junior High School. I only saw my Dad every other weekend after that. He was always very distant and unapproachable. My Mom never remarried. So I was pretty much on my own from that point forward.


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I was trying to get back in the swing of things today at work. I still fight a low level anxiety from time to time. It kind of ebbs and flows. I did chat for awhile my LBS female friend in our group. It's nice being able to talk to someone who's been through this. Unfortunately, it ain't always easy after D either. I think I'm finding out the drama can linger on, especially if you have kids.

The day started off rainy, and it's still wet out there. No exercise this morning. I am debating on whether or not go out there in a bit and combine this morning's 8.6 mi ride with tomorrow morning's workout for a total of 17 mi. on wet streets and in the dark. crazy crazy crazy At least it stopped raining and the temperatures are still in the 50s.

Like I mentioned to IS, I didn't see my W at all today. I got a late start leaving work and the traffic was pretty congested because of the rain. She got to my house before I did. I only saw her as she pulling out of my neighborhood and I was turning in. I honked the horn a couple times and she honked back. That was it.

Tonight GAL'ing activity of choice was my Tuesday night Relationships group at church, a.k.a. my Ladies group. There were only 4 of us tonight, but it was still a great meeting. I hung out and talked with my group leader for awhile after our meeting. I even suggested the possibility of having a New Year's Eve party at my house. crazy We see if it pans out. smile


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Unfortunately, it ain't always easy after D either. I think I'm finding out the drama can linger on, especially if you have kids.


This is soooo true.

But i think it really great you are going to all those meetings at your church.

Enjoy!


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JB if you keep this up you're going to be a real party animal! wink

I'd say go get some exercise for that anxiety, but I'm pretty sure you've got that covered! laugh

Hope you feel better, friend! You're in my prayers as always...


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Originally Posted By: mykarma

But i think it really great you are going to all those meetings at your church.

Thanks for dropping in, MK! Yes, the people at my church have been amazing in their support and friendship.


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Originally Posted By: realormakebeliev
JB if you keep this up you're going to be a real party animal! wink

I'd say go get some exercise for that anxiety, but I'm pretty sure you've got that covered! laugh

Hope you feel better, friend! You're in my prayers as always...

LOL on the party animal thing.

Thanks as always for the prayers! smile


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No exercise today. I gave myself the day off.

This evening was the most interesting part of my day. My W texts about 6:30 tonight about how we're going to handle Thanksgiving. I was legitimately very busy tonight, so it was a couple of hours before I was able to get back to her. I just texted her back and asked if I could give her a call later.

I had a "Thanksgathering" tonight with my church. We had kind of an informal mini-worship service with dessert, coffee and fellowship following. I drug my S along for this, kicking and screaming, laugh but he was all right by the end of the evening. I really enjoyed talking to people at the end. It's like my inner social butterfly has come out of its coccoon. crazy

I get home and about 3 hours after my W's initial text, I'm able to call her back. It turned out to be one of the longer phone conversations we've had in awhile. She's not feeling well and I expressed my empathy. We talked about her job and some of her concerns about some the shady clientele at the apartment complex she's working at. She then threw out how she's feeling the need to be closer to her family and how she has it all figured out. She was suggesting she would move closer to her parents and sister (about 40 minutes away from me) and how I would move to city closer to where I work. (which would in turn put her 20-25 minutes away instead) Everything would just be peachy then! crazy crazy Seriously?!?!? crazy I really like the area of town where I live - so I am going to move to a part of town where I really don't want to live or may not reasonably be able to affort to live and she doesn't want to be M'd to me? crazy I tried not to let it upset me too much. mad

Anyway, we got on the topic of Thanksgiving, how it was going to work with my S, and we pretty much got it worked out. That was a perfect segway for me, however, to tell her that BTW. I am hosting a football party at my house on that following Sunday. She was floored. shocked I even read to her from the church program from last Sunday so she'd believe me. I went on to tell her about about couple of positve divine interventions that I've felt have occurred recently in regards to two upcoming mission trips. I also told her what I was doing tonight. She just left the conversation telling me she was glad things were working out so well for me. I just replied with "yep-there's definitely some amazing things happening.

Later on - a little bit of a downer. My S mentioned he wished he could both parents every day. He asked if W has taken her maiden name back. I told him we're still married and he seemed a bit surprised. He mentioned W has been talking a little more about D recently. eek


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Nice work JB... though I might have kept the football thing to myself... let her figure it out through stories from your S or other devices. Increase the mystery smile

Sorry to hear about the potential move. I know it's only 40 minutes but still... it's the one thing I worry about. Our laws would allow my W to move up to 150 miles away if she chose. Her whole family is here and mine moved here two years ago, so I don't think she'll up and leave, but it would definitely complicate time with kids issues.

My W also told me the other night that she plans to return to her maiden name. She cried about that though. I thought it was a shame and it was a downer for me too. I thought of the kids and how none of them will share her name with her now. But it's just a name. Names can always be changed.


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Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann)
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D final: 11/12/12
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