I really screwed up today. My wife was acting very uninterested in me and I let my mind get the best of me. I snooped and found her prepaid phone and checked the messages. She has been texting him all day. There were only a dozen messages on there, but it didn't include the start of the conversation, so they got deleted somehow.
Basically, she asked the OM what he was doing on Friday night and if he wanted to hang out. He replied that he wanted to have sex and then go out. She asked if that's all he wanted from her and he said no. I don't remember the rest of the details on it but that was the main stuff.
Right after I was done reading them my wife came into the area and noticed that I moved the stuff around where she had the phone hidden. She immediately questioned why I was going through her things. I denied it and she got mad. She went off into the other room and started doing other things. I walked past her a little later and she asked why I was going through her things, and I denied it once again.
I don't know if she knows that I saw the phone and texts, but she obviously has her suspicions.
I know I really shouldn't have done it and I am definitely learning the hard way right now that it's only making things worse. I'm so hurt that she's even still talking to the guy. It's possible that the whole thing was done to see if I'm still snooping, and I'm sure that's what she would say if I confronted her about it. But, there's also the possibility that it is exactly what it looks like... her talking to him about hanging out.
What do I do??? Admit the snooping and confront her? Admit the snooping and don't mention seeing the texts on the phone? Admit nothing and don't say anything about what I saw?
