Wow, E...so good to hear from you! Thanks for checking in on me! I've thought of you often, hoping that "no news is good news," so I'm glad to read that things are continuing to go well.
Yes, no news was good news. We've had our ups and downs but for the most part, things are going well. Admittedly, I've struggled not to go all WAW on him because piecing is hard. I think my anxiety is worse during all this than it ever was during the bomb drops. I'm not doing so well at dealing with the memory of the A sometimes, truth be told. But I'm not scared of D anymore.
For example - H and I got into it one day and he actually said maybe it would be better if we D'd because he had ruined us. I lost it and replied, "Do you really want to go there?! Because if you do you better have a lawyer on speed dial because I will not be threatened with D again! So cut the sh!t! I'm so onto you because we both know you don't really want a D!" He looked at me stunned for a few seconds and then started laughing and said I was pretty funny because I never say things like "cut the sh!t" and that yes, I was onto his game. He apologized and said he realized that he only ever threatened D because he was angry at me for rejecting him prior to him meeting crazy ow and that he never actually wanted a D. At least he can't play the D card so casually anymore.
Originally Posted By: lc4
Thankfully, when I did see ow , this time she wasn't "driving" a grocery cart to run me over with.
Our H's sure know how to pick 'em. Although, that story is a wee bit funny. The best part however, was how well you handled it.
Originally Posted By: lc4
As you know from keeping up with my sitch, she is quite the belligerent one, and considering she was knocking back several beers where we saw her, I was fearful she might make a scene in front of my family. Unfortunately, I was the only one to make the scene after we got home...not really...it was far from a scene, but I did let a lot of fear and hurt get the best of my mouth. Anyway, I think we are getting back on track and will put this behind us as a small bump in a very long road.
As I said, I think you've done an amazing job of handling the and hopefully your H will forgive you for this small bump. My H said that the A makes him feel guilty and horrible, and he wants to forget what a lying, selfish, petty jerk he became during that time. He also said talking about it triggers anger in him sometimes because he's embarrassed and mad at himself. Therefore, perhaps your H's A is simply a reminder of who he was during that time and his anger is just guilt in disguise.
Originally Posted By: lc4
Speaking of ow , I hope the one you had to deal with has finally learned her lesson and is off the radar.
Well, she was quiet for awhile and then she started up her campaign of crazy again by texting my H so that they could "talk" about it. He said there was NOTHING to talk about but she kept texting him for a few days and begging. He sent her a No Contact email and said that he loved me and that the A only happened because he thought I didn't love him anymore (yes, I did give him the ILYBINILWY speech long before he met ). Did that stop her? Of course not so I emailed her and said that since she was so eager to talk to me in the summer...here I am. I added that my H had made it very clear that it was over between them and that every time she contacted him, he was going to let me know and I would respond for him. We haven't heard from her since.
Originally Posted By: lc4
I also hope and pray that your daughter and son are doing better and that your daughter has worked through some of her anger against your husband.
Yes, our daughter is speaking to H again and even asked for him to accompany her on an errand recently but she's still guarded. There is progress though. Our little guy is still concerned about D and always asks what Dad and I are going to do after he's in bed. He needs assurance that we are going to cuddle and talk so that's what we tell him. Although, it's what we've been doing so it's all good.
Originally Posted By: lc4
Feel free to hijack my thread if you aren't starting another thread. Either way, I'm just glad you stopped by with your support. Big hugs to you, lc4
Thanks, lc! I will start a new thread soon. And I'll be popping in from time to time to check up on my favourite DB'ers.
