See if he has left a copy of No More Mr. Nice Dog lying around. If you find it, you're in trouble.
Lol, at +200 lbs I could be in real trouble.
Journaling: I neglected to mention that during the coffee stop after my niece’s recital her mother mentioned it was my turn to host Thanksgiving. I assumed she was teasing me to get a reaction. I played it off as a joke and mentioned I’d better start cleaning the dog hair out of the house immediately.
One of the things I mulled over while in stand over the last weekend was if she had been serious. She has a very dry deadpan sense of humor so it could have gone either way. Long story short I spoke with her yesterday, and I am not hosting, but I am invited to my STBXs families Thanksgiving celebration at the other SIL’s home.
This SIL explained that whenever I have interacted with STBX’s family I have been genuine and caring through what they realize is a very difficult time.
That I have not taken a negative tone when speaking about STBX although I have obliviously been hurt.
That I have been as an older brother to her and a father figure to her children.
That the family agreed they would like me to attend if I can and I feel comfortable doing so.
Our conversation digressed a little when she spoke of how her sister is treating family and how hurt she has felt during the last year.
I tried to explain that STBX is under a great deal of stress as she is probably convinced she will only find happiness on the path she has chosen.
I tried to explain that some degree of personality shift is normal when people are under stress and the WAS typically associates only with people that support and agree with them.
I tried to explain that STBX needs to experience the path she has chosen and I cannot swoop in to rescue, that any effort like that from me would be counterproductive.
I found myself citing the “In sickness and in health” part of my vows twice during this part of the call.
It also turns out I am invited to Christmas Eve dinner. The other SIL stated “JS needs to be there to help prepare the meal” It is a traditional Slovakian meal, meatless that I have contributed to for the last twenty three years.
So it seems I am not abandoned by STBX’s family. For that I have all of YOU and this site to thank. It could have gone many different ways quite easily. Of course I will be DB’ing my backside off a week from Thursday.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
