That's great that SIL is available to talk to. How is your relationship with her? What does she say about your sitch?

SIL may well have known, but if you put yourself in her shoes, it would be awkward to admit that as she would feel guilty that she hadn't told you before. I wouldn't hold that against her.

You know that DB generally recommends against involving W's family, but if W offered her up, take the lifeline!

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015