I think that people have different levels of tolerance and capacity for love, hurt, anger, etc.

Your W can work extremely long hours and the stress that comes with that but can't deal with the stress of the relationship.

Her friend on the other hand seems to have a capacity for managing BS and still manages to keep it together.

If there is a bright spot regarding W's friend visiting, it may come in the form of a realization from your W that crap! If my friend can hold things together through thick and thin, then maybe I can too?

Wishing you all the best!

Me51 W53 S17 S14
M22 T25
Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11

It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife