Wife left

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So after 5 years of marriage and being together for 7 years my wife told me she was moving out of the house and in with her parents (11/7/11). She told me she needed time to think and needed space. She said she wasn’t sure if she loved me anymore and wasn’t sure if she wanted to or had the energy to try to work things out. She kept saying she didn’t want me to hate her or be mad at her. She never said she wanted a divorce, only a separation so she could be on her own for a while. Of course this came as a shock to me, I knew we had our ups and downs but we always came out ok (or I thought we did). We had just taken a vacation together to Florida (Oct 23-39) which I thought went well. Our sex life was fantastic. She said lack of communication was the biggest issue. She said she couldn’t believe I couldn’t see that something was wrong. She was feeling so depressed and I never noticed. I have a very stressful job (Law Enforcement) and I know I let it get the better of me and sometimes shut down. I know I can do better communicating (thanks to a lot of self help reading I did these past few days), but feel I may never get a chance to show her. I never cheated on her, never physically abused her, and never talked down to her. We have a son that is 4. Since she moved out we have been in contact mostly about arrangements for our son. Some mornings she comes to the house to pick our son up before I go to work, and she sleeps in our bed after I leave for work. (Hopefully that is a good sign). When we do see each other I always ask her about her day, and activly listen to her. She has agreed to marriage counseling which we start tonight. I also told her I was willing to seek therapy for myself to get better. I am just worried she is only doing this so we can be friends for our son. I am willing to do anything it takes to get her back. This last week has been the hardest week of my life. I don’t think I could be just friends with her. Any help on this heartbreak would be great.