IB my children feel exactly the same. The two older ones have a limited and fairly distant r [6 years on, though] but my youngest still excludes my xh from his life. I think one day he might let him in, but he has been gone more than a quarter of his life, for no very good reason that my son can see. Apart from monumental self centredness. I see my xh's hurt but I am not sure that the children do