Oh heck, I forgot. A good, experienced counselor is essential here too. 'Word of mouth' is a good way to find one.

Often, friends or family may not know how to deal with this and just tell you to 'get over it' or 'move on.' It can be frustrating (been there...) but you can't blame them, they're just doing the best that they can.

I haven't posted much in the last seven years. I've been a lurker. Just lookin' to put back all the good help I've gotten...