First time here

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks for checking in, we are actully slowly getting back on track.

considering you were on the fast track to divorce, I'd say this is major PROGRESS... You are allowed to feel good about that!

have you turned it all around and fixed everything??
Is it 'ALL GOOD' now? No...Of course not. We get it. You get that.

But um, hello? The fast track on the divorce train has SLOWED DOWN...and for THAT, you should pat yourself on the back (discreetly, and to yourself of course...but we over here on this DB site, we are APPLAUDING your first milestone...can you hear us? clap clap clap!! ...)

We have been doing the in house seperation thing for about a week and half now. H says he has really missed us. He has been calling and texting me during the day and asking to spend time with me.

well, THANK YOU UNIVERSE!!!! this is wonderful...savor it. You are probably on a rollercoaster and may be, for some time. But hey, enjoy the sights (blessings) when the roller coaster is fun. Part of the healing and restoration of your marriage will and must entail

learning to be grateful and to feel it and "wallow in it" with every bit of energy we allow ourselves to wallow in anger or self pity. Ever notice that when we're angry, it can get our FULL 100% attention and every ounce of energy---BUT

if we are feeling joyful, we often allow fears or doubts or some other "offsetting" negative in our life to creep in...why do we do that?

Why do we deflect from obvious blessings and not allow ourselves to fully experience the joys life does give us?

Feeling joy does not mean we are taking a risk! It does not increase the chance of something bad happening to us; it's just the opposite!!

But I've had to consciously change that in myself. I used to "worry" about being happy, as if there was a demi-God up there, waiting for me to be content and then he'd toss a wrench in the engine to make sure my life was always in turmoil or crisis. But the real GOD, or the universe, does not work that way.

It's okay to be happy and feel loved. It's crazy to turn away from it...and probably wrong.




I am loving it, but scared that things are going to fall apart at any moment.

well, Do not let your fears bring about the very thing you fear...

it's an ironic but common occurence.


He has told several time thank you for the time from all the relationship talk. So for now things are moving in the right direction. I am just very worried about thing falling back to our old patterns and ending up right back where we started.

see above and keep up the good work. And Avoid the R talk!!!

Do what works and dont' do what does not work....simple but true.

((( )))