The Thanksgiving plans were crushed. Thanksgiving at the in-laws was cancelled. Not by her or I but just cancelled. Other things happening in that realm.
So I said, oh well, we'll find something to do. Maybe go to our favorite restaurant. Today she comes in to tell me she's made plans for us for Thanksgiving. We'll be "crashing" a friends party.
So she's here tonight. I have an event in the morniong and she decided to stay so I could have the car early. This is different. She's made a very big point to never stay here even when she really had to go out of her way not to. Tonight she in a way went out of her way to stay here. She's in another room. We watched a movie together and then went to separate rooms.
The funny thing is that tonightshe made a fuss about M being bad and women being bad for their husbands and how everyone should run from it. This was all to a group of guys. Not an uncommon thing for her to say but tonight she really stressed it a lot. It's a strnge conflict going on. I almost fell into the argument and got mad about it all but then I realized she's saying all this but at the same time staying here. I think that the thing for me to do is nothing. Just let it be and see.
A long time ago when I was on these boards the first time someone gave the analogy of getting a wild rabbit to eat from your hand. You have to let it. Try to tempt it and it will just run away.
I think maybe my rabbit is coming close. Not really sure. But I know not to scare it away. At least I can figure that much out.
