I read all your thread Alb and thank you for following mine. I continue to harness my expectations and move on with my life. H has remained in contact, although there was one weekend where he couldn't get back to town for a family dinner but amazingly enough emailed to let me know and apologised. We've continued those family dinners together once a week since I last posted. Yesterday we had our first meeting with lawyers to begin FS and afterwards we went for a drink together. For the very first time since BD he started talking about our R. I was blindsided and stunned but hopefully responded in DB way. He talked about how unhappy he was at the time and how he didn't feel he had any other choice but to leave. I validated and listened. We also laughed a lot about things from the past. He is curious about what I'm doing and asked a fair few questions. We walked back through the city together and he stayed with me til I got back to my work building. I gave him a kiss on the cheek said a cheery cheerio and left. This weekend he has asked if we can have a family dinner on Friday and on Saturday I'm going to his fathers birthday party with the kids. I know these are positive steps; I know that the patience I have learnt over the last two years is about to be sorely tested and I know I must continue to protect my heart. But most importantly I know I'm going to be okay no matter what and when I began this journey in September 2009 that was something I would never have believed.
