In my opinion, it was put on hold for a future time. Kind of interrupted by fears but still boiling inside. Unless it was a transition not a MLC.
I did an evaluation of my life when i turned 35. I analyze every aspect of myself and my life and realized that my life was perfect just the way it was. I was feeling uneazed and couldn't say why. I was thinking of leaving XH but I DID NOT. I left, with the kids, for a week-end and came right back. This might actually be XH's trigger. He was heart broken and i wasn't even leaving him. I was thinking about it and he knew it.
I looked at everything. What made me ME, which value i had, the kind of mother i wanted to be and the kind i was, what was important, priorities, XH, friends i had, who mattered and who didn't, everything... To me, that was a transition, my transition. My mistake was not explainig to XH what was going on. Even if i wanted to, i couldn't of did it because i didn't know myself. It was something humbleing for me. This past June, i finally talked to XH about it. His first question was:" Why didn't you talked to me about it?" Me:" Because it WASN'T ABOUT YOU, it was about ME. I made the decision to stick because i had realized that i HAD IT ALL!" They have to live the journey. This is about THEM and THEM only.
