Hi CL, I am glad you are posting,I was getting worried about you. I was happy to read your wife asked for a cuddle, but sad to read this "I'm trying to be more accepting of her imperfections--smoking, lack of self-initiative, inappropriate comments in public, proacrastination with job hunting, poor sleep habits, poor eating habits, impatience and so on" really makes me wonder why you are expending so much effort, you must love your wife, she must have good points,maybe focus a little on why you fell in love and married her,recapture those feelings and they will show through and maybe the "fake it til you make it" attitude will rekindle some passion. Just my take on things but I know you have your own way of dealing with things. I do really wish you well and am pleased you get support.Don't over think things tho,sometimes an action says so much more. Take care.
