What do I do next? Part 2

[MrBond]

She's deflecting. She's saying that she's justified in doing what she's doing because you did this and that. It happens all the time.

When she starts going off on things that you know are not true, hold up a hand and tell her that while she has a right to say whatever she wants to, you don't have to stay there and listen to things that aren't true. And that you will be willing to talk when things have calmed down. Then just walk.