You can sacrifice a lot, you can make concessions, hell you can even move if you think it would lend to reconciliation, problem is that right now all you have is a hope and a dream oh an a MIL feeding you what could or could not be accurate information.
Do you have expectations? People ask this all the time but there is NO ONE on this website that does not have some sort of expectation; if you didn’t you would not be here would you?
So you have zero indication from you W that she would like to work on the marriage but yet you would consider moving 400 miles (I believe that is the right distance right?), quit a good paying job, sell your house on the hopes that you would win back your wife, but at what expense?
Your W would like to get counseling…..wait she changed her mind……wait she wants to go to counseling again…….get the point?
There is a certain level of work you have to do and a certain level of work she will have to do and at this point I see her doing none of it.
I remember when you first came here you doubted everything about yourself, like most of us, you berated yourself for the breakdown of your marriage but slowly the blinders where lifted and you started to see more clearly. Good for you!
As you see more clearly you realize that while you certainly had your shortcomings your W did not walk away from this with clean hands.
In order for any reconciliation to work BOTH parties have to be on board and BOTH parties have to be willing to do the hard work.
From where I sit you lose everything and could walk away empty handed anyways. I don’t see the value in that or how that becomes a benefit for you R in the long run.
Am I saying not to move?
No.
But I don’t see how moving right now based on the information you have makes any sense.
