lc4, I'm glad things seems to starting to move in the right direction again. I think you're going to have these relapses but they'll get better over time. It's probably not a bad thing to have these occasional relapses either. If you're anything like me, if it's too easy it's going to generate some anxiety because it's too easy.
The very last thing I would want for you in the world is an unsuccessful reconciliation, or even worse, a temporary reconciliation. Believe me, having lived through it, it's not a good feeling when you think you're finally on the right road only to get bombed again. I think these minor setbacks are just a necessary evil. If y'all can get these feelings out of way as you go through this process, I think it'll be for the better in the long run.