Snowman... I wouldnt say she is ignoring the problem... Because it is not a problem for her, it's what she wants. You are looking at this brough your eyes... Try it through hers. Try looking at your dynamic from the view of someone who has already left he m.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD