W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[MrBond]

"but I think I have a pretty good feel that they are."

Unless you are your W, you don't have a clue. Stop the mindreading or it will drive you crazy.

"but I do think these things are one of the major issues that she had with me."

Did you know that whenever you say the word "but" it invalidates everything you said before it? Like..."I know I shouldn't do it BUT it was our anniversary". Stop saying 'but'. It's a good rule when talking to your WAS too.

"As far as the rules goes I went weeks without saying anything and trying the LRT with no real changes or reaction from my W although if I looked deeper I may have seen some positive signs but I can't think of them now if there were some."

For one thing, the 'rules' are not set in stone. The primary lesson in DB is to do what works. If something works that is contrary to the 'rules', then do it.

I don't think you understand what the LRT is. LRT is when you tell your spouse that you are perfectly fine with the D and can see that your R was messed up. You haven't done that.

"but I can't think of them now if there were some."

There's that word 'but' again. The changes your W will show aren't going to be major earthshattering ones. It could be as simple as her saying 'good morning' to you after not saying it for a long time. All of those interactions start writing them down so you can build on those small positives. Your goal is to increase those small positive interactions with her until they build like an avalanche. It only takes a pebble to get things started.

"I THINK she has continued further decisions in..."
"She avoids the elephant in the room"
"She is trying to ignore the problem"
"Everyone including me don't understand what she wants or what really bothers her."

Again, more mindreading. You aren't her so really don't know if she's "avoiding" the issue. She might just feel suffocated and needs to go out to get some clarity. Concentrate on yourself and your plans.