I get a few more calls during the day about the kids etc, all fine.
Then she calls me to say that our son needs a book from home for school, hes with me tonight, and that she will drop it off later.
Around 7.15 she arrives looking great, I opened the door and said she looked good, she said thanks, I just naturally asked where she was going, not really out of interest, it was a genuine natural question, she said shopping!!, I just laughed and moved on.
She was in a while speaking to the kids etc, then left. Whilst I cannot know for certain, she was probably off out with OM, I knew this would be happening, it hurts, but she won't see it, I was smiling and upbeat all the time she was here.
the question is why come to the house all ready when she is only 10mins away, she could have easily dropped it off prior to getting ready, and I would not have known a thing, or is she trying to tease me, or just letting me see her looking good?? Maybe I think too much, but I feel there is a big game going on here?
It was certainly done for a reaction, I hope she never got the one she expected ,other than me saying how good she looked But it was done for a reason, just not sure what that reason was!!!
"It was certainly done for a reaction, I hope she never got the one she expected ,other than me saying how good she looked But it was done for a reason, just not sure what that reason was!!!"
You're overthinking. She dropped off a book. Period. Not to get a reaction, etc. Just take it as that.
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Maybe it was for a reaction, maybe not. Don't take it as anything, but what MrBond said, just her dropping off a book. Even if she did look lovely doing it.
About your previous post, there is most certainly a connection between you two, I could honestly feel it when you described how she was looking at you, and you had to look away. But, like everything else, take it with a grain of salt.
Maybe like you hope, some of the wise old heads will come to post. I asked God to make me wise, but He gave me red hair instead, with an Irish temper. Oh well.
Just wait, if she wants something more, she will eventually let you know.
Thanks guys, I totaly hear what you are saying, but this was done for a reason?
When she has just dropped things off in the past, she has called to say she was outside and for our son/daughter to come out.
She looked great, and she wanted me to see her.
I'm not looking into it any further than, but she wanted me to see her.
She called me this morning again to speak about an arrangement regarding our son, again this wasn't important, but I got the call again.
When she came round last night, as we spoke, her eyes were all over my face, my hair, my body, and this was just a few feet away!!!!
It feels like she is now looking for reasons to come round the house at any opportunity.
Its not a problem, I am totally cool about it, she is welcome at anytime, and I want her to feel it.
I have to say though, its very frustrating when you know someone has feelings for you, you have feelings for them, but we both do nothing about it.
Patience is my friend right now
I feel good in all aspects of my life, I just miss my wife, who I speak to daily, I wish I could just spend more time with her as friends, but that is a decision that only she can make.
So what should we do in that situation. Will "going for it" really damage the future, or is it something that will move the situation along. After all, someone has to make the first move.
Or is it that WAW HAS to do the moving, despite however long it may take?
All the advice points at I don't do anything, until they make the first move, they have all the control
It makes sense in a way, because if I do push, and I have misread the situation it will knock my "friendship" backwards, and probably stop all communication.
This is a really trick time for me because of this entirely.
But she knows how I feel about her, and she knows I want to work on us, so for now I don't mention "us" or talk about it
I think that is the way it is meant to work, as long as they understand they are in control. However, if they don't and expect you to move towards them, what then? Limbo forever until she gets tired of waiting?
My wife is a very girly girly woman, so she might be waiting for me to make a move, she knows how I feel, but maybe wants to see it, but when I'm around her I act very cool, polite, friendly She keeps coming back, so I'm not pushing her away at least!!
But, she doesn't come round when we are alone, the kids are always there, if she comes round when there is only me home, that might be the time??
If she ever comes a dinner time, could you ask her if she'd like a plate? Some way of seeing how she will react to an invitation to stay a bit? Ask her opinion on something you are doing in the house, maybe to pick out a paint color or something? Ways to get her involved without pressure.
She probably did want you to see how nice she looked when she dropped by, and she did look at you in THAT way, but moving too fast on your part in that direction could set you back. I agree that with neither of you moving if you both are feeling THAT way, because each is waiting for the other to move is hard on you, but it has not been a long time in your situation, so a bit longer while you keep building up your friendship is not going to hurt. She knows how you feel about her. She knows you want to get back together. Try not to get ahead of yourself.
She does know exactly how I feel so theres no need to say or do anything more.
MrBond, you said on another thread of mine that I was being to hopeful and positive about anything to do with her, I think you are bang on the money, but it is hard when things are going well not to be positive, but I'll try to control my feels to myself better.
I called home last night to speak to the kids, they were fine, daughter was baking with my wife and sounded happy. I spoke to my wife, nothing major, asked if she was ok, she said fine just a little tired from work, and running around after the kids etc, all good.
I went to the gym for a hour or so, as I came out I had a call from a good friend, he was out with another of my friends watching a football game, and asked if I was coming over.
So home, quick shower, and out!!
As I walked into the bar, my friends could not believe how well I looked, and were genuinely happy, they commented on my weight loss, and also my muscle definition, it was really nice to hear, even from another man!!!
They asked about home, wife, kids, etc, these are my closest friends and I told them everything, they were really supportive, and told me not not worry about anything as I looked great and healthy again, the best they have seen me in a lot of years!!
So I said out a few hours, we had a blast!!!
Bar was fairly busy, a few ladies!!, and I got a fair bit of attention, very flattering!!!!!
Think I might be there again next Tuesday night, don't know about a recession, it was packed!!!!!
All good again, if she doesn't want to make a go of things with me she is an idiot!!!! It's her loss!!
