It really seems to me that your H is pursuing you - HARD. It seems like he is launching an all-out assault to push every button he can think of. If one button doesn't get you going, he'll try another one. If he doesn't get results by pushing that one, then he'll try another, and so on. You are handling it like a champ. Keep standing strong and don't let it wear you down.
I don't know what's harder, being married to a button pusher or being married to someone who seems to be all but checked out. I almost think the latter is easier.
I think lc4 has some good advice for you, considering she has navigated this before. Treat like a child with a temper tantrum.
Vent here all you want. It's a lot better than saying something to your H that you will regret later.
I am praying for wisdom and strength through this, ROMB.
It's a lot better than saying something to your H that you will regret later. 
