Alcoholic H wants D part 2.....

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this is a letter I have written this am that I am considering either bringing to next session and reading to him, or emailing..i would rather read it to him directly.....what do you think?? waste of time? My C has told me to do this several times in response to his blaming but I never have.

H,
I am writing this letter in response to the many times you have made statements blaming me for your drinking. You have said several times that my nagging and anger caused you to drink, you told our son that you drank because of me and most recently in our Co Parenting sessions you have stated that I yelled and got angry so you went in the garage and drank, when in fact you were drinking well before we even met.
Take responsability for your own alcoholism and stop making excuses for your drinking and the poor choices you have made. No one forces alcohol down your throat and until you accept total responsibility for choosing to drink (even if it was because you were unhappy in our marriage) you are going to struggle with your recovery.
Your anger is better directed at yourself because of your seriouse about recovery your going to need to let go of your bitterness and focus your enery on healing.
I have taken full responsability for my part in the break down of our marriage and the mistakes i made in the process but i will not, nor do i deserve to take responsibility for your part also.
If you cannot stop blaming I will not have any communication with you until it can be mor productive.

What do you think?????????