+1 on the "2011 sucked" Telemark, I was thinking that myself. My sister had a PA and got divorced after 10 years, sister-in-law got divorced after 15 years, and I discovered my W's serial A's going back several years. In 2010 I never saw this coming, I was happy in a way I don't think I can be again!

Before I found this board I was discussing my situation with a friend who said "you got nuked!" and that is what it felt like. Here everyone refers to it as "the bomb". One day you're walking down the street smiling and whistling, and the next day you wake up like a character in McCarthy's "The Road" where you don't recognize anything about your surroundings. Very surreal experience and intensely painful.

Also +1 that you are a good man and have handled this as well as anyone could have. My best wishes to you going forward.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015