Alcoholic H wants D part 2.....

[imthemom]

ok, regarding the Co Parenting session last night:
We had used up my sessions and H had agreed to use his EAP for more sessions, that in its self alone is surpriseing to me..we are there to work on co parenting but he has done nothing that she has suggested and i havent really seen to much come out of the sessions yet but am being patient.
This being the first of his sessions she was focusing on what he wanted to acomplish, and asked alot of questions of him, because he said he would like to learn to communicate with me better.
she got into why he wanted a D as his explanation has not been clear, he says his sobriety is to important and he cannot go back to the relationship the way it was. she has suggested that it can be worked on and not be the same especially since there is so much history and a child involved. she told him that his explanation did not make since.
They started talking about how we are getting along so well now and he said he had seen changes in me..specifically my anger, and she even brought up the fact that I did not explode and rage when i caught him with OW. He agreed and said he was impressed with that..????????????
She then asked him (which made me really uncomfortable) if he would consider working on this and putting D on hold and he got really angry and defensive and actually raised his voice and said we have nothing in commen but our S and that was it. He then started the whole I drank because of her anger and nagging and blaming me for his drinking ...which honestly, i am getting really sick of hearing. through out this whole exchange i am sitting and not saying a word. I was very aware that this was not a time for me to interject or say anything, i just listened.
at that point our time is up and he then lets her know that by the way, my EAP will pay for 3 more sessions under not only him but for me also since we are still married. ???????
I dont understand why he would want to keep going when he gets so angry and then does nothing she suggests???????
and then as we leave he is laughing and saying how that woman is so irritating and teasing me about it....????????
I am feeling like i really dont want to go back, i cant sit there and stay silent while he blames his drinking on me over and over and has not one time taken accountability for anything..even when he is asked why he is not spending time with his son he says i dont have an answer for that.....
it is beyone frustrating!!!!!!
oh, and 25 i am still pondering your previouse post....why DO i want a R with this person????????